how to roleplay

if I have learned anything being in sex work - it’s that everyone has a dirty little fantasy. yes. everyone.

some of the best sex of your life is had when you indulge in that fantasy with another person. and i’m here to help you do just that.

the first step is figuring out what details of the fantasy turn you on the most. is it the sounds? the outfits? maybe it’s a certain phrase or power position. have a clear view of what your fantasy is and be able to put it into words.

now you will need to find someone super sexy, non judgmental, that’s down to play. I (obviously) recommend hiring your favorite sex worker. if you’re fantasizing about a companion you haven’t seen before, don’t just email her your ideas off rip. sounds tempting but most companions will put any explicit emails in the trash immediately. book her, see if there’s chemistry, and then bring up your fantasies.

now the hardest part of this whole thing is getting over the fear of judgement. obviously we all are thinking “this person is going to think I am so fucking weird” or “what if they don’t want to even talk to me again?” don’t worry - I have a plan.

if you have thought about it and have chosen this person, they’re more than likely down. but to preface the fantasy I like to use this format when bringing it up:

“so I’m a little nervous to tell you this, but I know you’re really cool and would never judge me, so I’m just going to go ahead and say what’s on my mind. I really want to try out Insert fantasy here with you, do you think we could play with that idea?”

telling them your nervous will let them know you how important this is to you, and will take their guard down. letting them know that you think they are too cool to judge you will show them that you’re putting your trust in them and that they’re special. this is the equation to a successful vulnerable conversation. maybe they will even tell you a fantasy that has been on their mind! having this talk could be the start of something beautiful.

there’s a couple of things to keep in mind. usually roleplay blossoms with time. the first time you dive into this with your partner of choice might just scratch the surface. you might be shy to tell every crevice of the fantasy, revealing how deep and dirty this can get might be intimidating to you. maybe your partner will help you realize another part of the fantasy that turns you on even more than the original idea that you had. that is the most exciting part of revealing your hand. the second thing to remember is that not all fantasies need to come to life. it doesn’t always have to be literal. dirty talk can go a very long way and can be a great substitute for more dangerous options I.e. using a condom during an impregnation fantasy. and if your partner is talking about fantasies that scare you I.e. an orgy with friends - it can always remain just as something hot and kinky to talk about. after all - fantasies are just fantasies!

have fun, don’t take yourself too seriously, and remember you have nothing to lose and everything to gain!